• You feel lonely but don’t quite understand why—you have friends and, overall, a good life, yet you still feel alone.

• You feel that no one truly understands you, that you view life differently than your friends or family.

• You’ve been feeling down for a while, even though nothing significant has happened.

• You’re disappointed in yourself because you can’t meet the expectations you’ve set for yourself or those placed on you by others.

• You feel like you’re always the one taking the initiative in friendships, but you don’t get much in return.

• You’re not satisfied with your sex life—perhaps you’re afraid to be vulnerable or unsure how to change things.

• You try your best to do things right, but it feels like it’s never enough, or you end up feeling exhausted.

• You’re unsure of what you want in life—what truly makes you happy?

• You want people to like you, and as a result, you often push past your own boundaries.

• Your relationship with your parents feels strained and drains your energy. You wonder what you can do to improve it.

• You’re often afraid to try new things, yet you long for them. Still, it feels like that fear is holding you back from what you really want.

• You feel misunderstood, often like an outsider, and that makes you unhappy.

• You’ve lost someone dear to you and wonder how you can process this loss.

• You feel disconnected from yourself but don’t know how to reconnect.

• You frequently cross your own boundaries and find it hard to say no.

• You feel tired and drained. Maybe you’re not doing enough things that bring you joy. But then you ask yourself, What does make me happy?

Not knowing what truly makes you happy or what you find important in life can stem from patterns developed in your (early) childhood. You don’t need to have had a traumatic childhood for this to happen, but as children, we are easily affected, leading to an "emotional bruise" that often gets covered up but doesn’t go away.

This can cause you to feel anxious about life, less joyful, or angry, because we are often (unconsciously) afraid of being hurt again. This can also disrupt your sexuality. You may have lost connection with yourself because you’ve adopted a certain “role.” This role may have been very helpful in your family of origin, but it could now be holding you back from pursuing what you truly want deep down.

Without realizing it, patterns from your family of origin—or even patterns from earlier generations—can prevent you from living the life that brings you happiness.

Every generation faces different challenges in their stage of life. As a twenty-something or thirty-something, you are confronted with many choices, which can bring you face-to-face with your fears, wounds, coping mechanisms, and/or beliefs. This can make it difficult to feel or know who you truly are, leaving you unable to make choices that genuinely bring you happiness. You may find yourself questioning what you really want, what is good for you, or what isn’t. This can lead to a feeling of being somewhat lost.

Parents of young children also face important decisions. How can you balance work and caregiving while keeping everything on track? Should you pursue a career or not? What is truly essential for you? How can you still find time for yourself and your relationship?

Perhaps you’re not feeling happy as a mother or father and are judging yourself for it. Or you might be a divorced, young, single parent, overwhelmed by a flood of emotions and decisions.

"Prevention is better than cure" is my motto. Achieving a positive flow by reconnecting with yourself starts by facing and healing your "emotional bruises." When you learn to make choices based on who you truly are, the likelihood of leading a happier life increases compared to making decisions based on what you think you want (but don’t actually want) or what you believe is expected of you.

When you are true to yourself, you can stay loyal to your own values. This is essential for building self-confidence and making choices that genuinely bring you happiness. This personal growth isn’t just for yourself but also for the next generation—your (future) children.

Our first meeting is an introductory session of 25 minutes. It is possible to extend this with a paid session immediately afterward. Regular sessions last 60 minutes.

I will start by listening to what you are struggling with. These are often deep and sometimes confrontational conversations, as we bring to light what is truly bothering you. From there, we will explore the patterns you developed during your childhood. These patterns were often very helpful at the time but may now be preventing you from finding happiness.

Between sessions, you’ll have the opportunity to reflect on your own process. During our sessions, I use tools such as LEGO figurines, various materials, and sometimes I provide assignments. I also use family constellations on the table to clarify patterns within your family and even previous generations. This allows you to free yourself from old patterns and responsibilities that are not yours to carry.

The process is not a fixed program but tailored to your individual questions and situation. In just a few sessions, you can often achieve significant progress, leaving you feeling relieved and re-energized. You will learn to view yourself and your surroundings in a new way. This helps release positive energy, boosting your confidence and enabling you to feel more empowered.